What is the best dating site for me?

free-iconLets look at the different online dating sites, what they offer and what will suit your needs the best. There is no denying that online dating has revolutionised the way we meet new people with more and more relationships starting online every year but, with the increased popularity of online dating comes an increase in different sites all competing for your hard earned money.

 

Online dating sites vary in quality and popularity greatly. Membership numbers also vary massively from site to site. There is little use being on a site with only a handful of other members. The chances of finding love on a site like this are slim.

Costs also vary considerably from free sites to quite expensive paid sites. Should you pay or are free sites just as good?

Free sites can be good, they can also be horribly bad. Many operators of free sites need to cover the costs of running a site either by showing a lot of ads or by selling on members profile details and photos. Poor site performance and excessive downtime can also be a problem with free sites. There is nothing more frustrating than receiving an email saying you have a new message and being unable to log in and read it or respond. The demographic of free site users is usually younger singles, often students who use them as a hook up site rather than a way to meet a long term partner.

 

In order to decide on the most suitable site for you, you need to take a look at your expectations. If you are just looking to meet as many people as possible (cast your net wide) then a large, well known site like Match.com is an obvious choice. With a database of millions of members and a reputation for good customer support, you can’t go far wrong. If you are on a limited budget, there are some good free sites out there but be prepared to ignore a lot of time wasters. If you are more particular about the type of personal you want to meet, why not consider a more niche dating site?

 

These days there are sites for just about anyone. Dating sites for overweight people, redheads or disabled people are common. If you know exactly the type of person you want to meet, maybe this is the route to take. A good example of a popular niche dating site would be a site catering for singles of a particular religion. Religion is quite an important part of many people’s lives and finding someone who shares the same beliefs and values as you is important to many. Christian dating websites are the third most visited websites in The US after general dating and mature dating sites which shows just how popular some sites have become. Another type of site that has increased in popularity is local dating where all the members are from a certain area. this is a reaction to some of the large, dominant sites who boast millions of members worldwide for you to find that there are hardly any members actually near you.

The decision is really down to you. Take a step back before you decide on the site you want to enrol with and consider your goals. If you still can’t decide. Make a shortlist and check out some online review sites to see what other people think of them. Most dating sites these days offer a free trial period so you can ‘try before you buy’. Take advantage of these offers where possible and see which sites fell right for you.

The most important part of deciding what dating site to go with is a site which you feel comfortable using and enjoy using. Dating should be fun not a chore. Whatever your decision, we wish you all the luck finding your sole mate online.

Are adultery websites destroying Christian values

relationship-questionAre adultery websites destroying Christian values?

The rise of adultery websites in recent years has been worrying on many levels, and particularly given the brazen self-publicity that a number of high profile websites have been indulging in of late. Adultery has always been with us, and it is always a great sadness to see the hurt that comes to families when someone betrays their marriage vows, but is it fair to say that this more modern phenomenon is destroying Christian values? US Christian dating website onlysinglechristians.com think so.

They are certainly making it easier for people who are already inclined to stray to find willing partners. Dating and introduction sites have historically always had their fair share of married people using them, but there was always an air of disapproval by single people using them, just as there is on the more traditional dating scene. Now though these adultery sites are making a virtue in their own eyes of their selfishness, even going so far as to cite Free Speech as an important platform of their struggle for acceptance.

The problem seems to be not so much that the sites are destroying Christian values, but that they are a symptom of a widespread moral faltering in our society. The reasons for this moral failure can be cited very easily when we think about the hyper-sexualised nature of today’s media, but this always seems to smack of excuses to me. No one, not even the devil, can make us commit adultery. The responsibility for the adultery, and by extension the failure to live up to Christian values, lies with the adulterer and the adulterer alone.

Hebrews 13:4 tells us that “God will judge the person who commits adultery”, leaving us with the challenge of how to forgive the sin against us. Infidelity by one partner against another is perhaps one of the most painful situations that a couple can be faced with, and it’s why St Paul stresses the need for both husbands and wives to be responsible for fulfilling each other sexually (1 Cor. 7:3).

Adultery websites are another form of temptation put in our paths, but they are no more dangerous to a loving and committed Christian couple than any other form of temptation. To say therefore that they are destroying Christian values is something of an exaggeration. This does not mean however that they are something that we can ignore or condone. As Christians we have a responsibility to stand up and be counted and to point out the things that are wrong in the world. Adultery websites such as www.mybedoryours.com certainly count in that regard but isnt everyone free to make their own decisions in life?